To The Woman Who Has Lost Herself in Someone Else
To the woman who has lost herself in someone else, I see you. I see your pain. I see your loneliness. I see your confusion. Because I was you. I too have been scared and confused. I too have allowed myself to become lost in someone else’s chaos. I too have exhausted myself from fighting […]
Just Another Mid-Life Crisis
There is a season for everything. For many years, I’ve been in a season of retreat. Hibernation. Looking within. When I moved to San Diego five years ago, I was in the midst of major life upheaval. I had just gotten married, my relationship was in crisis, I had recently stopped drinking, and I had […]
Travel Favorites: Top Things in London to See in 2 Days
I’ll admit it – I wasn’t that excited to travel to London. When my family and I booked a northern European cruise that left from the UK, I was definitely excited for the trip, but I really didn’t expect to love London as much as I did. I (mistakenly) assumed that it probably wasn’t that […]
The Paradox and Inevitability of Grief
Grief, much like life, is a paradox. Unexpected, but also inevitable. It’s the uninvited adversary we never see coming, though we’re always acutely aware that its arrival may be just around the corner. When it shows up on our doorstep, we’re shocked but never surprised. Grief is inevitable for all of us. The loss of […]
If You’re Struggling This Mother’s Day, I See You
Mixed Emotions On Mother’s Day Aren’t As Uncommon As You Think Mother’s Day is a worthy cause for celebration. But, what about when it brings up mixed emotions? For those of us lucky enough to have a good relationship with a mother who’s still alive, it’s often a day for connection and joy. A day […]
A Friendly Reminder That Tattoo Guns Don’t Have Spell Check
So, a girl walks into a bar… Okay, the girl was me. And it wasn’t a bar; it was a tattoo parlor. Imagine the scene. It’s 2010, I’m 22 years old, and I had just got my first-ever tattoo only a week prior. My objective? To get a full side tattoo of the serenity prayer. […]
Ultra Independence – My Super Power, or a Response to Trauma?
Pop culture tries to sell us that ultra independence is cool and sexy. But the reality is human beings need connection and social support. Quite literally, we need a community to thrive and survive. I’ve written graduate papers on the subject. I’ve touted the importance of social connection to my clients when I was providing […]
Rolling with the Punches: Riding the Wave of Change and Transformation
It’s been said that the only constant in life is change.
I couldn’t agree more.
Things have been weird in our house lately. It feels like some major shifts are underway, and I think we’re all a bit disoriented.
What Might Have Been
I’ve never been one to ruminate about ‘what might have been’. I’ve always found it to be a fruitless exercise and a waste of time.
Focusing on things I can’t change has never been my cup of tea, unless of course I need to look at them in order to ‘fix’ something.
Codependency is a Myth, but Attachment Trauma is Real
If you’ve ever been to therapy, or dealt with a loved one who suffers from addiction, you’ve probably heard of the term codependency.