'Becoming the Love of Your Life' Online self-love course
Tired of Chasing Love and Approval?—I'll Teach You to Create it From the Inside Out
You've spent your whole life chasing love and acceptance.
You pour your heart into relationships, yet still feel insecure, unseen, or unappreciated.
You constantly second-guess your worth or feel anxious when people pull away.
You take care of everyone else’s needs—but ignore your own.
You tell yourself you should “know better,” but still fall into the same patterns…
Here’s the truth: You are not broken.
And you don’t need to work harder to prove that you’re good enough.
At some point, You were taught that you have to earn love.
Now your nervous system is stuck in a loop.
But, the good news is—you can rewire these responses. You can learn to feel secure, loved, and connected—and I’ll show you how.
✅ Stop chasing unavailable partners.
✅ Feel calm and confident. No more spirals.
✅ Learn to set boundaries without guilt.
✅ Get the love, validation, and connection you’ve always wanted.
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Hi, I'm Blair Nicole, and I know this struggle firsthand.
For years, I was trapped in the same painful cycles—trying harder in relationships that never felt quite right, and trying to drown out negative emotions with alcohol, people-pleasing and success.
I thought if I just achieved more, found the right person, and silenced my negative thoughts—I’d finally feel good enough. I accomplished some pretty impressive stuff, but no matter how much I did, it was never enough. I still felt insecure, anxious, and pissed off that my attempts weren’t working.
Finally, after a major crisis in my life and marriage, I did what any overachiever would do—I threw myself into fixing it.
I spent over seven years and $100k trying every therapy and healing solution available—EMDR, DBT, IFS, EFT, Kundalini yoga, 12-step groups. I even went back to school, got my Master’s in Clinical Psychology, and became a trauma therapist myself.
And here’s what I learned: There was never anything wrong with me. My feelings and behaviors totally made sense based on what I had experienced in my life. I didn’t need to be fixed. And, I didn’t need to shame myself for feeling insecure.
I needed to work with the feelings that were plaguing me, instead of trying to silence them. I needed to learn how to become the secure person I had always needed.
Once I did, everything changed…
My relationships became more loving and peaceful. I stopped sabotaging myself and started pursuing things that made ME happy. And the resentment, loneliness, and insecurity lifted.
Today, I feel peace and self-acceptance in a way that I didn’t know was possible before.
And now, I want to teach you what I wish I had known when I started—backed by science, trauma-informed practices, and real tools that actually work.
Not Your Typical Self-Love Course
Most programs focus on surface-level fixes that often leave you feeling more frustrated when they don’t work. This program gets to the root—helping you rewire the patterns in your brain and nervous system so you can finally feel secure, worthy, and good enough from the inside out.
What Does the Program Include?
Each module is designed to fit into your busy schedule, so you can go at your own pace. You’ll also have lifetime access to the self-love course. It includes: 30 audio training modules (broken into 6 sections), 30 journal prompts, six immersive guided meditations, and weekly email check-ins for 6 weeks.
✅ Topic 1: Your Feelings Totally Make Sense
- Everything You’re Feeling Makes Sense (You’re Not Crazy, and There’s Nothing Wrong With You)
- Why Are You Doing This? What’s Driving You
- Noticing Triggers & Patterns (Without Shaming Yourself)
- Listening to Your Body
- Finding Your Way Back to Yourself
✅ Topic 2: Feel Safe Inside Yourself
- Understanding the Mind/Body Connection
- Regulating Your Nervous System When You Feel Fear and Anxiety
- Making Space for Anger
- What to Do When You’re Sad or Depressed and It’s Hard to Keep Going
- Feeling Safe Within
✅ Topic 3: Developing a Secure Attachment Within
- Meeting the Parts Within You That Keep You Stuck
- Showing Compassion to Insecure & Rejected Parts
- Befriending Angry or Resistant Parts
- When Things Get Noisy and Your Parts are Having a Party
- Becoming the Safe, Loving Person You’ve Always Needed
✅ Topic 4: Rewire Your Brain for Confidence & Self-Love
- Everything You Need to Know About Rewiring Your Brain
- Letting the Good Feelings Stick
- Using Visualization to Become More Confident
- Being Confident and Calm in Triggering Situations
- Becoming the Best Version of You
✅ Topic 5: Stop Self-Sabotage & Feel Really Good
- Noticing Progress, and Allowing it to Sink In
- A New Approach to Self-Sabotage
- Building Your Tolerance for Good Feelings
- Giving Yourself Permission to Feel Good
- Feeling Comfortable With Progress
✅ Topic 6: Live Your Best Life
- Balancing Acceptance and Change
- Reclaiming Your Voice and Setting Boundaries
- Forming a Secure Connection With Others
- Who Would You Be If You Weren’t Afraid?
- Stepping Into the Next Chapter
Are You Ready for Real Change That Actually Lasts?
Backed by science, not wishful thinking
Most self-love courses tell you to “just think positive”—but real change happens when you start to listen to yourself, not repress yourself. We use neuroscience, nervous system regulation, and our innate inner wisdom to create lasting transformation.
Healing, Not Shaming or Repressing
Toxic positivity won’t heal deep-rooted patterns. This program is trauma-informed—which means we don’t ignore pain or force you to “feel better.” Instead, we gently work with the parts of you that are struggling so you can heal at the root.
Actionable Steps for Lasting Change
You don’t need more information or another self-help book—you need real tools that work. Every day, you’ll get step-by-step exercises that will help you rewire your brain for secure relationships and self-love, so it becomes a real habit, not just a concept.
What Others Are Saying
This immersive course is brand new and launching soon—so while I don’t have reviews for it yet, here’s what people are saying about my best-selling book and past coaching programs. ⬇️
Frequently Asked Questions
This self-love course is for you if you’re ready to take the first step toward real change. If you’re willing to try something different and completely change your relationship with yourself (and others) forever, then this will be life-changing!
However, it’s not for you if you’re looking for a quick fix, unwilling to engage in self-reflection, or currently in a life-threatening crisis—please seek support from a licensed mental health professional if that’s the case.
No, this program does not include 1:1 coaching or live coaching. All of the course materials will be sent digitally, and you can go at your own pace.
It includes 5 audio trainings per week for 6 weeks, weekly immersive meditations, journal prompts, and weekly e-mail check-ins for 6 weeks.
You can go at a pace that feels comfortable to you! It was designed to be flexible and fit in all schedules.
The program covers 6 core topics and includes 30 training modules that are 10-20 minutes each, 6 guided meditations, 30 journal prompts, and weekly e-mail check-ins for 6 weeks.
For optimal results, I recommend going through one topic (5 audio trainings + 1 meditation) per week. But you have access to everything on demand, so you can go at your own pace.
You’ll have lifetime access to the course. No falling behind, no pressure—just progress.
Not at all! This program is perfect for women who are fed up and ready to change. You don’t need experience with therapy, mindfulness, or self-compassion—just a willingness to do the work.
While it is trauma-informed and deeply therapeutic, it is not therapy or mental health treatment.
If you’re struggling with severe trauma, crisis situations, or mental health conditions requiring professional care, I strongly encourage working with a licensed therapist.
No, I don’t guarantee results—because transformation is in your hands. I can provide the tools, guidance, and support, but you have to do the work. If you show up consistently and apply what you learn, change is absolutely possible. I’m proof of that 🙂
Due to the digital nature of this program, I do not offer refunds.
You can view the program terms and conditions HERE before enrolling.
This program is not appropriate for individuals currently experiencing: suicidal thoughts or severe emotional distress., life-threatening addictions or active withdrawal, or acute crisis situations requiring immediate intervention.
If you need urgent support, please call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline in the U.S. for free, confidential 24/7 support. You deserve help, and there are people who care about you. Please reach out to a trusted therapist or crisis resource.
This program was designed with women in mind, however, this program is built upon research and scientific principles that work for everyone!
Will You Join Me?
I know what it’s like to chase impossible standards, seek validation from the wrong people, and to feel like no matter how much you do, it’s never enough.
As a PhD candidate in psychology, former trauma therapist, and someone who’s lived this struggle firsthand, I’ve spent years studying what actually works—not just in theory, but in real life.
You’ve tried doing everything for others. You’ve tried proving your worth through achievement, relationships, and self-sacrifice.
Now, it’s time to do something for you.
I’ll guide you every step of the way. But the first step is yours to take.