'Becoming the Love of Your Life' Online Coaching Program
Break Free from Unhealthy Relationship Patterns and Build a Secure Attachment In Just Weeks
You've spent your whole life loving other people first...
You pour your heart into relationships, yet still feel insecure, unseen, or unappreciated.
You constantly second-guess your worth or feel anxious when people pull away.
You take care of everyone else’s needs—but ignore your own.
You tell yourself you should “know better,” but still fall into the same patterns…
Here’s the truth: You are not broken.
And you don’t need to work harder to prove that you’re good enough.
What If I Told You That The Way You Feel—Actually Makes Perfect Sense, Given What You’ve Been Through?
And, what if I told you that it’s possible to heal by learning how to have a secure relationship with yourself first?
Stop Replaying the Same Painful Patterns
Break free from self-defeating cycles in love—without needing someone else to change first.
Learn to set boundaries without guilt.
Strengthen your inner voice so you stop second-guessing and start feeling confident in your choices.
Feel Calm and In Control
No more spiraling when someone pulls away, doesn’t text back, or leaves you in limbo.
Stop seeking validation from unavailable partners.
Learn how to offer yourself the love, validation, & reassurance you’ve always looked for in others.
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Hi, I'm Blair Nicole, and I know this struggle firsthand.
For years, I was trapped in the same painful cycles—trying harder in relationships that never felt quite right, and trying to drown out negative emotions with alcohol, people-pleasing and success.
I thought if I just achieved more, found the right person, and silenced my negative thoughts—I’d finally feel good enough. I accomplished some pretty impressive stuff, but no matter how much I did, it was never enough. I still felt insecure, anxious, and pissed off that my attempts weren’t working.
Finally, after a major crisis in my life and marriage, I did what any overachiever would do—I threw myself into fixing it.
I spent over seven years and $100k trying every therapy and healing solution available—EMDR, DBT, IFS, EFT, Kundalini yoga, 12-step groups. I even went back to school, got my Master’s in Clinical Psychology, and became a trauma therapist myself.
And here’s what I learned: There was never anything wrong with me. My feelings and behaviors totally made sense based on what I had experienced in my life. I didn’t need to be fixed. And, I didn’t need to shame myself for feeling insecure.
I needed to work with the feelings that were plaguing me, instead of trying to silence them. I needed to learn how to become the secure person I had always needed.
Once I did, everything changed…
My relationships became more loving and peaceful. I stopped sabotaging myself and started pursuing things that made ME happy. And the resentment, loneliness, and insecurity lifted.
Today, I feel peace and self-acceptance in a way that I didn’t know was possible before.
And now, I want to teach you what I wish I had known when I started—backed by science, trauma-informed practices, and real tools that actually work.
Not Your Typical Self-Love Coaching Program
Most programs for self-love or “codependency” just focus on surface-level fixes that often leave you feeling more frustrated.
That's Why This Program Is Different ⬇️
Backed by science, not wishful thinking
Most self-help advice tells you to “just think positive”—but real change happens when you start to listen to yourself, not repress yourself. We use neuroscience, nervous system regulation, and our innate inner wisdom to create lasting transformation.
Healing, Not Shaming or Repressing
Toxic positivity won’t heal deep-rooted patterns. This program is trauma-informed—which means we don’t ignore pain or force you to “feel better.” Instead, we gently work with the parts of you that are struggling so you can heal at the root.
Actionable Steps for Lasting Change
You don’t need more information or another self-help book—you need real tools that work. Every day, you’ll get step-by-step exercises that will help you rewire your brain for secure relationships and self-love, so it becomes a real habit, not just a concept.
What Does the Program Include?
Each module is designed to fit into your busy schedule, so you can go at your own pace. You’ll also have lifetime access to the course.
It provides coaching on 6 core topics, and includes: 30 audio training modules, 30 journal prompts, six immersive guided meditations, and weekly email check-ins for 6 weeks—all designed to help you rewire self-sabotaging relationship patterns, build deep self-compassion, and finally feel worthy, confident, and at peace in your own skin.
✅ Topic 1: You Are Not Broken
Set goals for your journey, and uncover how it makes sense that you keep repeating the same patterns.
✅ Topic 2: Feel Safe Inside Yourself
Learn how to calm your nervous system, stop the emotional spirals, and create a sense of inner peace—even when things feel uncertain.
✅ Topic 3: Become the Person You’ve Been Searching For
Get to know the younger, insecure parts of you—and learn how to offer them the love, safety, and validation they never received.
✅ Topic 4: Rewire Your Brain for Confidence & Self-Love
Build new patterns,increase positive emotions, and rewire your brain for confidence, self-trust and success.
✅ Topic 5: Let Yourself Feel Really Damn Good
Learn how to stop sabotaging when things finally go well—so you can actually enjoy success, love, and connection without guilt or fear.
✅ Topic 6: Become Unshakable
Let go of what no longer serves you, and step into your next chapter as the most secure, confident version of yourself—where relationships feel safe, healthy, and aligned.
What Others Are Saying
This immersive course is brand new and launching soon—so while I don’t have reviews for it yet, here’s what people are saying about my best-selling book and past coaching programs. ⬇️
Frequently Asked Questions
This challenge is for you if you’re ready to take the first step toward real change. If you’re willing to try something different and completely change your relationship with yourself (and others) forever, then this will be life-changing!
However, it’s not for you if you’re looking for a quick fix, unwilling to engage in self-reflection, or currently in a life-threatening crisis—please seek support from a licensed mental health professional if that’s the case.
No, this program does not include 1:1 coaching or live coaching. All of the course materials will be sent digitally, and you can go at your own pace.
It includes 5 audio trainings per week for 6 weeks, weekly immersive meditations, journal prompts, and weekly e-mail check-ins for 6 weeks.
You can go at a pace that feels comfortable to you! It was designed to be flexible and fit in all schedules.
The program covers 6 core topics and includes 30 training modules that are 10-20 minutes each, 6 guided meditations, 30 journal prompts, and weekly e-mail check-ins for 6 weeks.
For optimal results, I recommend going through one topic (5 audio trainings + 1 meditation) per week. But you have access to everything on demand, so you can go at your own pace.
You’ll have lifetime access to the course. No falling behind, no pressure—just progress.
Not at all! This program is perfect for women who are fed up and ready to change. You don’t need experience with therapy, mindfulness, or self-compassion—just a willingness to do the work.
While it is trauma-informed and deeply therapeutic, it is not therapy or mental health treatment.
If you’re struggling with severe trauma, crisis situations, or mental health conditions requiring professional care, I strongly encourage working with a licensed therapist.
No, I don’t guarantee results—because transformation is in your hands. I can provide the tools, guidance, and support, but you have to do the work. If you show up consistently and apply what you learn, change is absolutely possible. I’m proof of that 🙂
Due to the digital nature of this program, I do not offer refunds.
You can view the program terms and conditions HERE before enrolling.
This program is not appropriate for individuals currently experiencing: suicidal thoughts or severe emotional distress., life-threatening addictions or active withdrawal, or acute crisis situations requiring immediate intervention.
If you need urgent support, please call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline in the U.S. for free, confidential 24/7 support. You deserve help, and there are people who care about you. Please reach out to a trusted therapist or crisis resource.
The course officially drops on April 28, 2025. All of the course materials will be added to your account on that date!
Will You Join Me?
I know what it’s like to chase impossible standards, seek validation from the wrong people, and to feel like no matter how much you do, it’s never enough.
As a PhD candidate in psychology, former trauma therapist, and someone who’s lived this struggle firsthand, I’ve spent years studying what actually works—not just in theory, but in real life.
You’ve tried doing everything for others. You’ve tried proving your worth through achievement, relationships, and self-sacrifice.
Now, it’s time to do something for you.
I’ll guide you every step of the way. But the first step is yours to take.
