About Blair Nicole

If you're struggling with insecurity and constantly trying to prove yourself, I get it. I've been where you are...

For years, I did everything “right.”

But, no matter how much I accomplished, I never felt good enough.

Underneath the success was exhaustion, resentment, and deep insecurity. I kept ending up in the same unfulfilling relationships and cycles over and over again. I thought if I could just fix myself—or be better, do more, look perfect—I’d finally feel good enough.

I spent the next seven years doing the deep work—healing from complex trauma, and becoming a trauma therapist myself. But the biggest breakthrough came when I stopped trying to fix myself—and started practicing self-compassion.

That changed everything.

Now I help other women stop proving and start truly loving themselves.

My work blends science-backed tools with lived experience to help women stop the cycle of overgiving, self-sabotage, insecurity, and feeling “not enough”—so they can finally build the kind of love, peace, and self-acceptance they’ve been craving all along.

PhD candidate in psychology

I’m currently a PhD candidate in psychology, researching the mental health benefits of self-compassion and inner child healing.

Former trauma + addiction therapist

Extensive work as a trauma and addiction therapist, helping people navigate some of the hardest chapters of their lives.

Best-selling author

Best-selling author of 31 Days of Self-Compassion, a practical and heartfelt guide to building real self-love, one day at a time.

Why work with me?

I know what it’s like to look put-together on the outside while quietly struggling with pressure, insecurity, or never feeling like enough. I’ve been there—and now I help other women come home to themselves.

If you’re ready to stop overgiving, overthinking, or chasing love outside yourself, I’ve created two self-guided courses to support you: Rest Without Guilt and Becoming the Love of Your Life.