Onwards and F-Words!

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I woke up at 5 am and couldn’t sleep.  Moving day is tomorrow, and I have a lot on my mind.  We’ve purged about 70% of our personal belongings this week. It’s been difficult, and sad, and…necessary. But, it’s also been a tremendous relief.  It’s amazing how much ‘stuff’ you can acquire that you don’t […]

When Life Hands You Lemons…

Life as I know it is falling apart.  I’ve always believed that when the student is ready, the teacher appears. Well, I guess I’m ready for some major lessons, because life is kind of a bitch right now.  Garrett and I have made the difficult decision to break our lease early and move out of […]

When You’re Stuck in Between, Facing Uncertainty

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Times of transition feel a lot like waiting in limbo. Like life is on hold.  When you’re not quite where you used to be and not quite where you’re headed, it’s easy to feel untethered.  Not here, and not there.  Floating, falling.  Simultaneously trapped in the past, and stuck worrying about the future. But, rarely […]

Just Another Mid-Life Crisis

There is a season for everything.  For many years,  I’ve been in a season of retreat. Hibernation. Looking within.  When I moved to San Diego five years ago, I was in the midst of major life upheaval. I had just gotten married, my relationship was in crisis, I had recently stopped drinking, and I had […]

Travel Favorites: Top Things in London to See in 2 Days

I’ll admit it – I wasn’t that excited to travel to London.  When my family and I booked a northern European cruise that left from the UK, I was definitely excited for the trip, but I really didn’t expect to love London as much as I did. I (mistakenly) assumed that it probably wasn’t that […]

A Friendly Reminder That Tattoo Guns Don’t Have Spell Check

So, a girl walks into a bar… Okay, the girl was me. And it wasn’t a bar; it was a tattoo parlor.  Imagine the scene. It’s 2010, I’m 22 years old, and I had just got my first-ever tattoo only a week prior.  My objective? To get a full side tattoo of the serenity prayer.  […]

Ultra Independence – My Super Power, or a Response to Trauma?

Pop culture tries to sell us that ultra independence is cool and sexy. But the reality is human beings need connection and social support. Quite literally, we need a community to thrive and survive.  I’ve written graduate papers on the subject. I’ve touted the importance of social connection to my clients when I was providing […]

What Might Have Been

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I’ve never been one to ruminate about ‘what might have been’. I’ve always found it to be a fruitless exercise and a waste of time.

Focusing on things I can’t change has never been my cup of tea, unless of course I need to look at them in order to ‘fix’ something.

Writing Has Been Hard, But Here’s an Update

It’s been hard to find the time and energy to write an update. Even now, as I’m writing this, my capacity for output is minimal.

But I promised myself I would write something, so here I am.