How to Stop Being So Hard On Yourself & Rewire Your Inner Critic
Your inner critic doesn’t have to run the show. Learn how to stop being so hard on yourself and start rewiring your brain for self-compassion today.
Daily Meditation for Self-Love: Feel Good Enough Just As You Are
Are you looking for a daily meditation for self-love? Look no further. This guided meditation will help you befriend your inner critic, calm your mind and body, and cultivate compassion for yourself using powerful techniques inspired by Internal Family Systems therapy. But before we get to that — When you hear the phrase […]
Onwards and F-Words!
I woke up at 5 am and couldn’t sleep. Moving day is tomorrow, and I have a lot on my mind. We’ve purged about 70% of our personal belongings this week. It’s been difficult, and sad, and…necessary. But, it’s also been a tremendous relief. It’s amazing how much ‘stuff’ you can acquire that you don’t […]
When Life Hands You Lemons…
Life as I know it is falling apart. I’ve always believed that when the student is ready, the teacher appears. Well, I guess I’m ready for some major lessons, because life is kind of a bitch right now. Garrett and I have made the difficult decision to break our lease early and move out of […]
How to Learn to Love Yourself: A Complete Guide
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering how to learn to love yourself, you are not alone. The good news is, self-love is something that can be learned. And I’m going to show you how, based on my experience as a therapist and trauma-survivor, as well as a few research-backed strategies. Spoiler alert: […]
When You’re Stuck in Between, Facing Uncertainty
Times of transition feel a lot like waiting in limbo. Like life is on hold. When you’re not quite where you used to be and not quite where you’re headed, it’s easy to feel untethered. Not here, and not there. Floating, falling. Simultaneously trapped in the past, and stuck worrying about the future. But, rarely […]
If You’re Struggling to Set Boundaries, Read This
If you’re struggling to set boundaries, be patient with yourself. Learning new things does not happen overnight. It takes practice, intention, and a whole lot of discomfort. Learning to set boundaries is no different. It’s not something that just happens one day. It’s a skill that’s often developed when we’ve had enough of being walked […]
To The Woman Who Has Lost Herself in Someone Else
To the woman who has lost herself in someone else, I see you. I see your pain. I see your loneliness. I see your confusion. Because I was you. I too have been scared and confused. I too have allowed myself to become lost in someone else’s chaos. I too have exhausted myself from fighting […]
A Friendly Reminder That Tattoo Guns Don’t Have Spell Check
So, a girl walks into a bar… Okay, the girl was me. And it wasn’t a bar; it was a tattoo parlor. Imagine the scene. It’s 2010, I’m 22 years old, and I had just got my first-ever tattoo only a week prior. My objective? To get a full side tattoo of the serenity prayer. […]
Ultra Independence – My Super Power, or a Response to Trauma?
Pop culture tries to sell us that ultra independence is cool and sexy. But the reality is human beings need connection and social support. Quite literally, we need a community to thrive and survive. I’ve written graduate papers on the subject. I’ve touted the importance of social connection to my clients when I was providing […]