How to Learn to Love Yourself: A Complete Guide
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering how to learn to love yourself, you are not alone. We’re taught that self-love is important, but for many of us, it’s an elusive concept. What does that actually mean, and how do we do it? It sounds great in theory, but how do we get started? […]
If You’re Struggling to Set Boundaries, Read This
If you’re struggling to set boundaries, be patient with yourself. Learning new things does not happen overnight. It takes practice, intention, and a whole lot of discomfort. Learning to set boundaries is no different. It’s not something that just happens one day. It’s a skill that’s often developed when we’ve had enough of being walked […]
To The Woman Who Has Lost Herself in Someone Else
To the woman who has lost herself in someone else, I see you. I see your pain. I see your loneliness. I see your confusion. Because I was you. I too have been scared and confused. I too have allowed myself to become lost in someone else’s chaos. I too have exhausted myself from fighting […]
Just Another Mid-Life Crisis
There is a season for everything. For many years, I’ve been in a season of retreat. Hibernation. Looking within. When I moved to San Diego five years ago, I was in the midst of major life upheaval. I had just gotten married, my relationship was in crisis, I had recently stopped drinking, and I had […]
The Paradox and Inevitability of Grief
Grief, much like life, is a paradox. Unexpected, but also inevitable. It’s the uninvited adversary we never see coming, though we’re always acutely aware that its arrival may be just around the corner. When it shows up on our doorstep, we’re shocked but never surprised. Grief is inevitable for all of us. The loss of […]
If You’re Struggling This Mother’s Day, I See You
Mixed Emotions On Mother’s Day Aren’t As Uncommon As You Think Mother’s Day is a worthy cause for celebration. But, what about when it brings up mixed emotions? For those of us lucky enough to have a good relationship with a mother who’s still alive, it’s often a day for connection and joy. A day […]
Ultra Independence – My Super Power, or a Response to Trauma?
Pop culture tries to sell us that ultra independence is cool and sexy. But the reality is human beings need connection and social support. Quite literally, we need a community to thrive and survive. I’ve written graduate papers on the subject. I’ve touted the importance of social connection to my clients when I was providing […]
Codependency is a Myth, but Attachment Trauma is Real
If you’ve ever been to therapy, or dealt with a loved one who suffers from addiction, you’ve probably heard of the term codependency.
Death by Music
“My friends are out of the music group,” Garrett said matter-of-factly.
“So, what does that mean? Are you still producing the record?” I asked.
“Yes, but it will be with a group of people I’ve never met before,” he explained carefully.